Who would you like to talk to soon?
“The most important conversations are often those we have with ourselves.” — Unknown
This reminds us that before reaching outward—to mentors, partners, or collaborators—there is immense value in turning inward. Self-reflection shapes clarity, resilience, and purpose. It’s in those quiet internal dialogues that we confront our fears, reaffirm our dreams, and find the strength to move forward. Especially in moments of transition, pausing to listen to ourselves becomes not only a source of guidance but a vital act of self-compassion.
Occasionally, it’s not about what you’re drinking—it’s about who’s sitting across from you. Picture a coconut split open on a humid afternoon in Toamasina. Imagine a hot, dark brew in the cooler hills of Antsirabe. These are moments that ask for company. Not just anyone’s, though. Someone who understands, or maybe needs to.
Coffee with the Younger Me
If I could pour a cup for anyone right now, it might be myself. Not the one writing this. Years ago, there was someone who believed change happened quickly. They also thought systems could adapt to one’s desires. I’d tell him—quietly, not with advice but with warmth—that it’s alright to carry both fire and fatigue. Not everything requires repair. Some things just need witnessing.
A Coconut with the One Who Walked Before
A mentor I’ve never met is out there. Perhaps it’s a former diplomat. Maybe it’s a development worker who aged out of the game quietly. I imagine them older now, retired on a veranda overlooking something vast. I’d sit beside them, coconut in hand, and ask, “How did you know when it was time to move on?” I wouldn’t expect a straightforward response. Just… perspective.
A Table for Two, Someday
There’s another presence I picture. This individual is someone I have yet to meet. This individual could potentially serve as a business partner or a creative collaborator. An individual who shares my perspective on the Indian Ocean is desirable. They see it as not being a gap between islands. Instead, they view it as a bridge between visions. We’d sketch ideas on napkins, argue over espresso, and laugh at the absurdity of starting over. But we’d do it anyway.
A Quiet Chair for a Forgotten Hero
Every country has them—people who built the invisible scaffolding others now stand on. I’d love a moment with one of them. These are the individuals whose names don’t appear in reports, yet their footprints have shaped entire communities. I’d just say thank you. I might also ask, “Have you ever considered whether it was worth it?” Not to challenge, but to understand the cost of lasting work.
Being Present
It’s easy to romanticize these imaginary meetings. But maybe that’s the point. We should take the time to contemplate who and why matters. The real magic is in noticing who left. It doesn’t matter whether it’s a stranger on a rickshaw or a friend who stayed. The real magic lies in taking the time to listen. Giving someone our full attention is a valuable gift.
So—if you had an hour, a drink, and an open heart—
Who would you invite to sit with you?
And would you be ready to really hear them?
L J Padayachy 
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